Wednesday, February 22, 2017

Online Dating 101

It's really too bad that dating apps don't offer a rating system. It's not enough to text with someone for a week and perhaps go on a few dates, before we find out he's a complete tool. Is it lazy to wish we could see reviews from other girls he's dated before we waste our time? Since we haven't gone quite that far, we have to look out for each other in different ways. Over time, I've collected some tips for online dating that you might find useful as you swipe right:

Protect Yo'self

Don't give out your cell number. 

Instead, get an account on KIK or Skype. KIK allows you to exchange photos and texts without sharing your phone number. Another useful app is Google Voice, especially if you want to talk on the phone. You can select a private number that allows you to send SMS texts and make phone calls without giving out your real number.

Lock down your social media. 

Better yet, don't tie your personal social media to any of your dating apps. Have a separate e-mail and Facebook account for your dating apps. Don't use the same screen name across the board. The beauty of Tinder is that men can only contact you if you swipe right, too. But I've heard of industrious little creepers who circumvent the system by looking someone up on Facebook or KIK. 

Do your research. 

If you get their personal information, such as a cell number, e-mail address, or full name, you better Google that shit. You can look someone up on Facebook using their cell number or e-mail address. Their social media helps you weed out the cheating husbands and gives you access to a little information about them. You can also look up their name on county websites to see if they have any legal actions against them. There is a lot of information at your fingertips with just a little research. However, be warned that it works in reverse too. 

Prepare Yo'Self

Video chat before you go. 

I cannot stress this enough! Nothing is worse than the terrible surprise when you show up to meet someone, and they aren't at all like their pictures. A pre-date video chat can save you from an awkward date.

Public meetings are the new group date. 

Meeting someone for the first time can be nerve-wracking. Online dating is only one step above a blind date, since it's so easy to pretend to be someone else online. Therefore, I recommend meeting your dates in public first to make sure they aren't going to size you for a skin suit or harvest your organs.

Value Yo'Self

Don't send nudes. 

You're not a free porn site, so don't act like one. If you're looking for a serious relationship, set the tone from the start and don't give anything away for free. If you're looking for a quick and easy hook-up then, by all means, send nudes. Just don't be surprised if he stops talking to you after he's jerked off to your free boob pictures.

Expect the best. 

Don't allow anyone to disrespect you or treat you like a disposable doll. Just because you're on a dating site doesn't mean you're desperate, so don't take shit from anyone. Shut him down and use the app's block feature when someone gets out of hand. You don't owe anything to anyone but yourself.

Treat Yo'Self

Pay for the premium memberships. 

Many dating apps provide extra privacy features to premium members. Take advantage of every opportunity to protect your privacy and contact information from undesirable prospects.

Be Yo'Self

Never pretend to be someone you're not. 

While dating apps don't allow members to rate each other on sincerity, character, or attractiveness, you still don't want to get a reputation for being disingenuous. Pictures should be no more than 3 - 4 months old. Don't lie about your age or your relationship status. It all comes out in the end, right?

Janes, you must protect, prepare, value, treat, and be YOURSELF, a.k.a. unchained as fuck.

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