Monday, October 17, 2016

Women: Wired For Connection

A few pictures from your past

And those walls you painted black

And the secrets that you keep under your bed

An unopened letter from your dad

A poster of your favorite band

It don't matter I'll take every part of you

All you have to do is let me in your room

"In Your Room" - Halestorm

I find these lyrics to be incredibly powerful. The theme of this song is trust. However, I wanted to reference it more in regards to making connections through human relationships.

It is human nature to seek connection, meaningful conversation, and touch. Society doesn't prioritize these things anymore. The evolution of technology has created an over-emphasis on emailing and texting. Almost every aspect of our day-to-day lives can be accomplished via a smartphone app. This detracts from face-to-face human interaction. Sometimes it seems like we are morphing into robots, and this breaks my heart.

In my last relationship, I was told that I was demanding because I asked my significant other to put his phone down and have a real conversation with me. My request to hold hands while we were driving made me clingy. Does this make any sense to you? It sure as hell doesn't to me. There is much emphasis being placed on women being strong, independent, and unattached. There are articles written everyday on why it's better to remain single AF.

So here's the scoop: I am a strong, independent, single female - an alpha if you will. BUT I crave human interaction. I want meaningful conversations in my daily encounters with others, and am uninterested in superficial conversation. I want to know your secrets, what makes you tick, why you painted your walls black. I want to know why you have walls up and why you're afraid to let your guard down because so many people are guarded and untrusting now.

I have been hurt plenty of times. You must be selective with who you let in your life. But that doesn't mean we can't create amazing conversations and build great relationships with other people. We cross paths with others for many unknown reasons, and we should make the most out of each and every encounter. Vulnerability is power. I am determined to be an open and honest woman without walls - no masks or facades. My goal is to touch the lives of everyone I meet. 

Maya Angelou said, "At the end of the day, people won't remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel." I want to have conversations with people that leave them feeling amazing. This is my goal. Every day.

Don't be afraid to seek connections with others. We are wired to be intertwined.


  1. I totally agree! We are meant to connect with one another. I'm recently divorced and see how sad relationships have become. No one seems to want to really communicate anymore.

    1. Thanks so much! We agree with you! Maybe if we all reach out a little to others, we can make some changes in the world! Hang in there, lady! XOXO