Wednesday, August 10, 2016

A Letter To My Daughter: The Secret To Your Success


To My Daughter:

The world does not set you up to succeed; success is yours only if you work for it. Ridicule and rivalry are everywhere. 

You, first and foremost, have to love and be comfortable with yourself. It will be difficult to find your true self in a world that tells you who to be and how to look. You have so many facets to your personality which make you an individual. Some may dislike you, but others will love you. You will not find fulfillment through another human being; only you can fulfill you. It is okay to be alone. 

As I write this letter, I think of all the things that have hurt me and how being hurt is a rite of passage for everyone. My only hope is that I teach you some things that will help lessen the blow.

As a mother at a young age, I was clueless about what to do or if I was doing anything right. I want you to know that I've done the best I can. I had no idea how much I still had to learn until you came into the world, and that every single decision I make would affect your life so much. We've grown together and continue to learn from each other.

Hopefully, I am preparing you for the harsh realities of life. Be ready for whatever comes and know that, at times, it will be incredibly hard. The world will seem to end, but the beauty is that it doesn't. You're allowed to fail and start over; you're allowed to make mistakes and get better. Experience is a great teacher.

Please do not fall prey to societal standards of beauty. You ARE beautiful. Love yourself, find yourself, and enjoy yourself. Mama will not always be here, but you will always have what I teach you. Self-love is so important. Create your own happiness, and no one can take that from you. Ultimate peace and happiness are within you - you beautiful, creative, and successful girl who will become a powerful woman. It took me so long to be comfortable with myself, and it is still a daily struggle. I am not defined by others' opinions or actions. 

Remember the words of Will Smith in his song Just the Two of Us, "Throughout life people will make you mad/ Disrespect you and treat you bad/ Let God deal with the things they do/ 'Cause hate in your heart will consume you too."

Be a badass everyday, baby girl! The secret to success will always be YOU!

Love,

Mama


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