Wednesday, June 1, 2016

Momma, YOU'RE In Time-Out

"Mom! Mom! Hey, Nurse! Aunt S!"

That’s what a typical day in my life is like. It's either my kids, my nieces and nephews, or my patients, all constantly wanting or needing something. Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m not complaining. I choose to take on each of these roles. Taking care of people is what I am built to do. But that doesn’t mean the everyday chaos doesn’t drive me batshit crazy from time to time.

Previously, I let you peer into my life in regards to the battles with my teenager and all we have experienced. I am a nurse in a long-term care facility. My best friend, who is my sister by chance, and her husband and children live with me. Talk about a busy life! Once we add in all the medical appointments, sports, and other school events…well, hell! Some days I don’t know which end is up, unless of course the whiskey is open. Then, pass that glass on over!

I do the parenting thing on my own and being a single mom can be a rough job. I wouldn’t change it for the world. My struggle has truly defined me and made me stronger. Then, I go to work and tend to the wants and needs of my patients. It is not cliché when I say that I am lucky if I have time to pee during my shift and that I rarely get a break. But I am there to care for people that a lot of times don’t have any other family.

I come home and the running just doesn’t end. Sports practices, housework, and whatever else may come up in a typical day can just be plain exhausting. This momma normally runs on caffeine and sarcasm. No joke! It is hard to keep balanced some days. I’m sure many of you Badass Janes can relate to that. 

Some days I feel guilty about wanting to come home and just shut down - kick my shoes off, drown out the world, and just not give a fuck. The reality is that, as a busy mom, nurse, aunt, girlfriend and whatever other hat I am wearing, I need to be able to chill. Keep my sanity. If there’s any left. For real, though, I have learned that for the safety of everyone around me, it is good for me to take some time to relax. I know that if I want an uninterrupted shower, I lock the bathroom door. I revel in those few minutes of peace and semi-quiet because, really, kids still knock on the door.

It’s okay to step back and take a few minutes to clear your head and gain composure. I know that taking care of myself is important for me to be able to take care of everyone else. So, please, give yourself a time-out daily. Even if it’s just ten minutes between running errands or having that second or third glass of wine after the kids are asleep. Just do it. Mommas need time-outs too.

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