Tuesday, May 17, 2016

See The Good, Be The Good

At times—and it seems, lately, almost all of the time—our world, country, and communities…have gone crazy. It feels like up is down and right is left. It feels like everything you do or say has to be thought about or rethought because someone will be mad or call it hate. Well, I'm tired. I'm tired of being on guard and looking for the worst in people. As I was walking today, I saw something so common, yet so beautiful. It made me think.

Early this morning, I was walking out of a store and I saw a father and his 12(ish)-year-old son. Just two regular guys, nothing special, walking next to each other. But then, the dad reached over and put his arm around his son's shoulder and gave him a squeeze. The son looked up at him with a partial acknowledging smile, and they just kept walking, the dad's arm casually slung over the son's shoulders. I was struck because what I was seeing, right there, was love. It didn't seem like a big deal, but it was a big deal. I saw a man reaching over and telling his son: You are a part of my world and heart, and I am proud of you and love you. I saw a son look at his dad, receive that, and say thank you. Maybe that's not what really happened. It's probably just my imagination and perception, but it made me wish one of my kids were there right then so I could reach over and give them that small bit of joy, love, and acceptance.

In a messy world full of anger and hate, it so often feels as if we stop seeing love. What scares me even more is that we stop looking for love and ways to give and receive love. Today, I remembered (once again) it is my honor to be a part of this crazy world, and one of my most important jobs as part of this word is to try to make it a better place. In that vein, I must begin to share joy: a smile, a hug, a friendly "hello." These things are so easy, and yet each one can change someone's attitude and day. Sincerity, not sarcasm and condescension—though a good sarcastic joke is another way to spread joy. Instead of looking for ways to be offended and finding hidden (and often nonexistent) negative meaning in everything people do or say, let's find joy. There is enough bullshit going around, so let's stop adding to it. I'm not saying ignore the bullshit; just don't search out the negativity because - let's face it - people tend to find what exactly what they are looking for: ugly or beauty.

The choice is yours. Today, I chose love.

1 comment:

  1. Patricia DequeantMay 25, 2016 at 5:53 PM

    I concur. Be the beauty you wish to see in the world.