Wednesday, May 4, 2016

Overcoming Hardship By Remembering The Real You

In life, you are often walking along and then, BAM! You are hit over the head with something life throws at you. Sometimes it's a small pebble; sometimes it's a full-blown brick wall. Sometimes it's the one thing that brings you down, drops you to your knees, and makes you unable to get up. It's that thing that makes you want to retreat inside of yourself, makes you hate the yourself, and makes you cry for the person you were before all of this. You keep asking yourself, "How do I get through this? How do I move forward? How can anyone ever love me again?"

Let me tell you: There is no quick fix. There is no magic pill. Recovery from any kind of hardship of difficulty in life requires a lot of hard work and deep soul-digging.  And acceptance. And forgiveness. But first, you have to start. Please start!

Start by loving yourself for who you are, not for what you have done or what has been done to you. Your experiences are merely moments; seconds in time. They are events that transpire, but they are not the whole of you. They do not define you. They are not your title or your label or your character. 

Who you are as a person is what defined by what is in your heart, your mind, your soul, all of which are growing and changing every day. You are always more than your circumstances, even in the hardest and darkest of times. You do not have to stay stagnant. You do not have to live in the dark hopelessness. You can not only survive, you can strive to heal, to move on, to be introspective and learn from your experiences.  

You are not a victim; you have been victimized. You are not your history; you are a person with a history. You have the power in you to move, to learn, to succeed. You only have to acknowledge that there is more to you than what is currently happening to you - and that you will get past it. Once you acknowledge, you can begin to see the light at the end of the tunnel. And that light is more beautiful than any pain, humiliation, or fear you have ever known. Because that light is the REAL you.

You are a sum total, not a single moment. Look at your life as a series: Each chapter creates a book, and each book is part of the series. You cannot have the complete series without one of the books, and you cannot have one of the books without one of the chapters. While some of the chapters might suck and hurt, each chapter is a contributing part of the book. Don’t allow one chapter to define the entire book. Don’t fall prey to the darkness of one event or even a series of events in one book.

Please believe in yourself and your ability to heal yourself. You got this.

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