Saturday, August 1, 2015

Choosing Happiness

Often we get bogged down by life and a few simple changes in the things we do day to day or the way approach situations can make a huge difference in our attitude and our confidence levels. Remember, for every minute you are angry or annoyed, you lose 60 seconds of happiness! Begin today, this minute, taking responsibility for your own contentment. Don’t waste another 60 seconds! Choose happiness and joy!

Choose gratitude. This is a very small habit that can really change the way you look at things overall in your life. Be grateful. Be grateful all the time. For little things and big things. When you get to work in the morning take a second and appreciate all of the things that went right this morning. Did you make it to work on time? Awesome! Did you get to enjoy a cup of coffee? Awesome! Did you wake up this morning? Freaking Awesome! Then do the same thing on your lunch break. And then on the way home. Don’t take stock of the things that were frustrating about your day, take stock of the things that went right no matter how small, and thank the universe. What you put out there comes back to you. What are you putting out into the universe?

Choose small rituals. Got a favorite soda? A favorite body wash? A favorite song? Set aside a few minutes each day to enjoy one of your favorite things. Use your favorite body wash in your morning shower. Take a few minutes to really breathe in that scent and enjoy it. Something small like this can really put you in a great mood to start your day or to give you something positive to get you through the last legs of a trying day. My small ritual? Every day I savor the first sip of my coffee. I try to take that first sip when I have just a second to close my eyes and really enjoy it (so not while driving for sure!). It definitely helps me to have a positive moment before my day gets going. I also really enjoy a cup of decaf in the evenings. It’s always that first sip for me.

Choose to smile. This is another small thing that can pay off dividends for you. Literally, put a smile on your face. Especially when you are around other people and especially when you don’t feel like it. Can’t just fake a smile? Think about some of those things that went right earlier in the day. Think of that dirty joke your BFF told you last week. Smiling is contagious and the more people you encounter, the more smiles will be returned to you. And that feels good! Remember what you put out will come back to you!!!

Choose to help others. Care about the people you encounter. You get out what you put in (we’ve heard that one a few times in this post, huh?) Do something bigger than you. Making someone else’s day a little brighter will come back to you ten-fold. You don’t have to do anything big. Hold the door open, buy a coffee for the person behind you, cut your neighbor’s grass, etc. The possibilities are endless! A kind act no matter how small, can turn someone’s day around and in turn, make yours a little better too!

Choose your reaction. You can’t always control the things that happen in your life. You can’t control what other people say or think, but you can control how you act and what you say. Your reaction to bumps along the road can make all of the difference. A positive reaction to a tough situation can lessen the negative impact it has on you. Look for that silver lining. 99.99% of the time, there is something positive hidden inside that negative situation—and I should add that this one is probably the hardest for me to do. I get frustrated very easily even with small things. I work hard to look at the positives and often times, this works for me.

Choose the right people. Sometimes this one is easier said than done. We all have people in our lives that really aren’t the best people to be around. Maybe they’re always negative. Maybe they’re rude to others. This is a pretty big one to change, but it will help you in the long run. “Spend time with nice people who are smart, driven and like-minded. Relationships should help you, not hurt you. Surround yourself with people who reflect the person you want to be. Choose friends who you are proud to know, people you admire, who love and respect you – people who make your day a little brighter simply by being in it. Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. When you free yourself from negative people, you free yourself to be YOU – and being YOU is the only way to truly live.”---Marc Chernoff

We at Unchained Jane challenge YOU to do one of these things every day. Then after it becomes a habit, add another, then another. We love you and YOU should love you too!!!

***Amelia Jane***

***Disclaimer: This is not intended to take the place of needed therapy or any other help required by a professional. This is simply a list of small things that hopefully will help you to enjoy your day to day a bit more.

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