Tuesday, June 27, 2017

It's Time To Rise!

It's 2017, but it's getting more and more difficult for me to say that women have come very far. White women have only been able to vote for 97 years. African American women weren't completely able to exercise that right until the 1960's. Birth control wasn't readily available until 1960, and Roe v. Wade wasn't until 1973. Yet, I have a pretty strong feeling that there are many men in all levels of government who are actively seeking to get rid of the rights we women have now.
In the last year, there have been many major rape and sexual assault cases brought to trial. This in itself is a huge step. According to RAINN.org, only six out of every 1,000 rape perpetrators will do any jail time. Six. To rational people, this is outrageous. To anyone who has ever been the victim of sexual assault, this number is pretty high.

Saturday, June 17, 2017

Changes Ahead

Change is supposed to be a good thing - the old cliche of when one door closes, another opens. I am trying hard to believe that this is a true statement. I have experienced loss on a couple levels this week, including my relationship ending at the beginning of the week. Happy Monday to me as my life shifted gears and I am hurt. Not heartbroken, but sad and hurt. I spent the next day sitting in my room, trying to gather my thoughts and deal with the reality that I was going back to the single world and my whole summer had just changed. I was struggling to wrap my head around things ending as abruptly as they did, though I made the final choice. So, I rhetorically asked the universe what other shit it wanted to through at me this week. Dumb question. I scrolled through Facebook and learned that a lifelong friend had suddenly died. No reason why at that point. He was just gone.

Universe: 2. Me: a big fat 0.

Thursday, June 15, 2017

Summertime Life Lessons

It's week 3 of my summer break with my kids. I like to make up little games while we're hanging out, mostly for my own sanity. I sometimes make them drinking games because adulting allows me to do that. However, one of our summer activities, watching Moana, can never be a drinking game. My liver wouldn't survive.

I grew up in the 80's and 90's, so I know all about the Disney marketing machine. Happy Meal toys. Toys from the toy aisle. Commercials. Books. Accessories. I know it all. I had it all! But living in the age of such amazing technology, like we do now, has upped the ante. We now have Moana playing in the DVD player anytime we get into the car. We have musical books we must read every single night before bedtime. If we aren't in the car or don't have the books, it's okay. YouTube allows us to watch the songs incessantly. The last time I checked, "You're Welcome" had over 165 million views. I guarantee my kids are at least a million of those views. Can you imagine if I took a shot every time I heard Dwayne Johnson singing "You're Welcome" in his oh-so-sexy voice?! I'd need a liver transplant. Like yesterday.

Can Long Distance Work?

Ten months ago, I found myself hopelessly in love with the most wonderful man on this Earth - who lives 2,000 miles away from me. We started our relationship living in different states, and that situation has continued to this day. And I'll be honest... it's been tough in some places. But it's also been an excellent test of our communication and commitment to seeing this through.

It hasn't been tough because of our relationship dynamics or compatibility. Quite the contrary. We adore and love each other with the same ferocity (probably more) as we did when our relationship first began. Neither of us can even fathom being in a relationship with anyone else because, in our minds, there is no one else that will ever begin to touch what we have with each other. We believe that at our core. 

Thursday, June 8, 2017

JanesMix: Legends

Each month, Unchained Jane brings you Janes a playlist full of badass, fierce women rocking out. We support female musical artists and hope you'll give these a listen and support them as well. The best way to listen is to download and sign up on the Spotify app (it's FREE), then either click the link below, or find us by username: unchainedjane3 or Saera Jane.

Tuesday, June 6, 2017

Staying positive.

The older I get, the more I find myself wanting to be surrounded by people with good energy. People who are inspiring and uplifting. Because negativity breeds negativity, I am shutting down a lot of toxic people. At my work place, home, and just the general public. At first, I felt bad. But as I felt better about removing the negativity, I no longer felt bad about shutting down people. 
I get that terrible things happen and life can be a struggle. But if you don't find a way to be positive, it's not going to get better.

Monday, May 29, 2017


To quote a poet from before my time, "School's out for summer!" Teachers have been dreaming about this time of year since August or September. We have spent the last 36 weeks teaching, coaching, and guiding your children. We are ready to send them back to you, parents.
Many parents are in panic mode. What are we going to do with these kids all day long? What do you mean I have to listen to their whining and complaints of boredom within the first 36 hours of the school year ending?!?